Not my normal blog
It is very seldom I write blogs like this. Most of the time, this blog is just about my kids, their development and the activities that they and we do....
But this particular blog I am writing is to express frustration pent up within me for quite some time ...
I was not a SAHM all the time. Actually, I worked most of the time, and only takes the year off right after I deliver. This way, I could breastfeed my kid successfully, and also to spend the first precious year with him/her. So, in a way, I could say that I have always had an income of my own. But then, when I am a SAHM during that particular time right after my kid(s) are born, I do sometimes feel bad that I am not bringing in income to the household. Although, I must say I do work harder as a SAHM compared to when I have a job.
The question here is... how do you substantiate the worth of sleepness nights when your kid is sick.... how much do you get for slaving over the stove to make healthy meals for your family, instead of dialing for pizza delivery.... how much is it worth your giving up your social life or job to take care of your family full time....especially for those without house help... With all this, do you deserve to claim 20% of your hubby's income? 30%? 60%? 100%???? or 110%????
Hubby has been really supportive in my giving up my job. Not only because of the newest addition to the family, also because we had to relocate to another foreign country. And he has been really supportive about us having a good life together here... and believe me, he has not given me any reason to be frustrated enough to write such a blog.... all said, he has been great....
But what is all this pent-up frustration that I have. Well, recently, a relative made a comment, saying that I have no say in this particular financial decision that hubby made. Reason is, the money is his, and not mine. Good God. When I heard that, furious is a mild word to describe how I felt!!!
First of all, I do bring in dough to the household when I am working. Secondly, even if I am a SAHM most of the time, it's not like we SAHMs idle around the house doing nothing and just spend our hubby's money!!!!! And also, the income my hubby brings in is as much mine as well as his....It's a joint effort. Without us taking care of the household, without us SAHM taking care of the kids and giving a peace of mind for the hubbies to work, do you think they can be as efficient as they are at work????
And most importantly, this is none of his/her business to make such comment!!!!!
HMMMMMpppphhhhhFFFFFF!!!!!!!
But this particular blog I am writing is to express frustration pent up within me for quite some time ...
I was not a SAHM all the time. Actually, I worked most of the time, and only takes the year off right after I deliver. This way, I could breastfeed my kid successfully, and also to spend the first precious year with him/her. So, in a way, I could say that I have always had an income of my own. But then, when I am a SAHM during that particular time right after my kid(s) are born, I do sometimes feel bad that I am not bringing in income to the household. Although, I must say I do work harder as a SAHM compared to when I have a job.
The question here is... how do you substantiate the worth of sleepness nights when your kid is sick.... how much do you get for slaving over the stove to make healthy meals for your family, instead of dialing for pizza delivery.... how much is it worth your giving up your social life or job to take care of your family full time....especially for those without house help... With all this, do you deserve to claim 20% of your hubby's income? 30%? 60%? 100%???? or 110%????
Hubby has been really supportive in my giving up my job. Not only because of the newest addition to the family, also because we had to relocate to another foreign country. And he has been really supportive about us having a good life together here... and believe me, he has not given me any reason to be frustrated enough to write such a blog.... all said, he has been great....
But what is all this pent-up frustration that I have. Well, recently, a relative made a comment, saying that I have no say in this particular financial decision that hubby made. Reason is, the money is his, and not mine. Good God. When I heard that, furious is a mild word to describe how I felt!!!
First of all, I do bring in dough to the household when I am working. Secondly, even if I am a SAHM most of the time, it's not like we SAHMs idle around the house doing nothing and just spend our hubby's money!!!!! And also, the income my hubby brings in is as much mine as well as his....It's a joint effort. Without us taking care of the household, without us SAHM taking care of the kids and giving a peace of mind for the hubbies to work, do you think they can be as efficient as they are at work????
And most importantly, this is none of his/her business to make such comment!!!!!
HMMMMMpppphhhhhFFFFFF!!!!!!!
Labels: Life
posted by rach-mommy at 4:11 pm
9 Comments:
Exactly right! If you as the wife has no "right" to comment about the decision your hubby has made, this relative of yours have totally no right to make any comment at all since he / she is not providing any "contribution" at all!!
Anyway, really no point getting frus over comments by narrow minded ppl.... Wasting your time and energy.. So long your hubby and kids are happy, that is all that matters :)
Hey...is none of their business. Do what you think is right for you and the family. Is you and your kids that reap the benefit. Don't let what others think affect you. What you are sacrificing is very noble. SAHM is one of the toughest job indeed!
Thanks girls. Writing the blog helped me vent out a bit. And I knew that I could count on you girls to understand. Feeling much better now!
That person is obviously a spiteful and jealous green eye monster, and hence such comment...
All I can say is to just ignore such comments. As long as both you and hubby understand and are committed to each other and your family, that's all that matters. Ppl just like to say things without going through their 'big' brain, so to speak and it's just sad that as humans, this is really a big flaw.
Totally understand your fustration.
I feel bad too not directly contributing to the family income. But it's the right decision for our family, and that should be all that matters, right?
Hang in there...
Exactly. Just remember, SAHM's contributions are priceless!
thanks girls...for all the support. hubby read this blog, and got a shock why so strong feelings from us girls...hehehehehe
Wow I can't believe someone would have the gall to even make a comment like that!! I have great respect for SAHMs and I think it is great for the kids and their upbringing to have a parent at home with them. Forget about that comment, it is not worth another minute's thought!
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